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Clorox, Sex and Dirty Bathrooms

Real Talk w/YourBeauty285

How is it possible for women in 2017, to brag about their oral sex performance, but yet their house is dirty?  They can do 365 tricks in the bedroom, but can’t make a bed up properly.  They can take a man’s soul, but can’t separate the white & colored clothes for laundry.  How is any of this possible?  How is it possible to rank sexual escapades high above, keeping the house clean?  Do you want to know how it’s possible?  Well I’ll tell you how.

It’s because their priorities are mixed up.  Among the younger generation (and some older ones) sex or rather the art of it, has been categorize as the ultimate goal.  It is seen as a proving piece to their worth.  Finally it’s because, the older women are still trying to get their groove back, instead of schooling their daughters, nieces, sisters and cousins.

Now this is not a blog post to bash the idea of enjoying sex, but it’s to offer a little advice.  Having a great sex life, is wonderful.  It’s one of the keys to having an awesome romantic relationship.  Through sex you are able to express how you feel about someone, on a physical, mental, and emotional level.   So….let’s get to the main subject of this post.  Now of course every man which has a sex drive, loves good sex.  Heck even if he doesn’t have a good one, he still loves good sex.  However, if you want more from the man besides his penis, (as a woman) you need to work on some other skills.  Giving a man the best sex should not be your only mission in life.  If he has dated for any amount of time, I’m sure he’s had more than enough rounds in the bedroom.  It is immature for you to learn how to perform certain sexual acts, yet you can’t remove the roaches out of your home.  That’s crazy!!  You have uninvited visitors running across your floor, and you’re trying to show him what you’re working with.  Are you serious?  Sweetheart, I want you to think about something.  If the man is so willing to lay up with you in your dirty house, there’s a great chance that he’s not about anything.  At all, which includes his hygiene.

Allow me to use myself as an example.  If my desk is all cluttered with paper, pens, peppermints, files, etc.  my workflow is halted.  I can’t comfortably concentrate on the task at hand.  Why?  Because everything is out of order.  Once I put everything in its proper place, then I can flow with ease.  That should be the same way with you.  You should not be able to comfortably lie with a man, and your home is unkept.  Just like I can work more easily with an organized desk, sex is better when the house is clean.  Seriously!  Your home is an extension of you.  I’m not saying that you have to be Betty Crocker, but there should be some cleanliness in your home.  Stop worrying about who you’re going to go out with next, and find out which store has some Clorox cleaner on sale.  If you don’t believe that a clean house will make for better sex and a better relationship, I dare you to try it!  Clean up your house before your man comes home, then watch what happens.  Both you and your man will feel great!  If he acts suspicious, just let him know that it was time for a change.  A real man will appreciate the change.  Perhaps he’ll finally invite his family over for dinner, or begin to take the relationship seriously.  Close your legs and open up a bottle of Clorox and start cleaning.

Was it to raw?  Oh well.  Sorry -not sorry




Give IT 2 him!!

One of the worst things a woman can do to a man, is hold out on him.  Yes I’m talking about sex.  Now of course I’m all about empowering women, but let’s take a look at one of the things; we as women do when we become mad.  Hopefully you’ll handle things differently.

So you’re mad at him and you have been for several weeks.  You decide to close your bakery/legs and not give him anything.  He can’t touch, taste or even look at it.  It’s closed down until further notice.  NEWS FLASH: you’re really not hurting him.  If he truly loves you, he may wait it out (by any many necessary), but you’re making it hard for him (no pun intended).  Nevertheless whether he loves you or not, soon or later he’s going to get tired of your games and go elsewhere.  No I’m not a supporter of cheating, but allow me to help you out.

Of course your feelings and what you’re going through is important.  Yet you have to understand that men are wired a little differently than women.  No sex doesn’t solve all of your problems, but it can serve as an icebreaker.  For instance, you can’t hold out on a man for several weeks and believe that when you’re ready to talk things out, he’s just going to open up and start talking.  I mean….you really can’t believe that.  Just like you have a need to verbally state what’s troubling you, he has a need of being physical/sexually active with you.  Please hear what I’m saying.  You can’t be so into “Women’s Right” and having your voice heard, that you just toss the man and his feelings out of the window.  That’s a double standard.  You’re smarter than that, you know how to negotiate.  Step back and see things from a different point of view.  No, you’re not letting him have his way, rather you’re giving him space to state his feelings.  Remember how I said that sex can be an icebreaker?  Well it can be for a committed couple.  The drop by night situations, it probably won’t work.  It’s just sex for him, plain & simple.

You can’t stop a man from cheating, but you can provide the environment for him to not want to cheat (if he’s thinking right).  Once you’ve taken care of him & the home, if he pulls up in someone else’s driveway, at least your hands are clean.  You are the Queen of your home, rule it well.  Just because you’re giving it to him, does not mean that you’re devaluing yourself.  Hopefully you’re getting some enjoyment out of it too. So in a closing nutshell, balance the silent treatments & the cookie.  Everything can’t be your way all of the time, and it can’t be his way all the time.  Stop the games, and come to some sort of agreement.  Plus you know you want him anyway.  Be the Queen you are, and make things work.



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From Full Lips to Blue Pens

Over the past few weeks, I have struggled with something.  This struggle involved my business.  Allow me to explain.  Before becoming a Freelance Creative Writer, I was known as the Avon Lady.  Now hold on, what I’m about to say, is in no way  – “Throwing Shade.”  I’m not bashing the company.  Just stating some facts, from my point of view.  In reality, I learned a lot from being the Avon Lady.  As a matter of fact, I still use & sell the products, and will continue to do so.  My struggle though had nothing to do with the quality or pricing of the Avon products.  What I was dealing with, had everything to do, with where I was going.

Being a Sales Representative for the company, allowed me to get my feet wet in business.  It showed me how it would feel to be my own boss.  Great connections were made and I learned a lot of lessons (some good, some bad).  Plus I was able to stock up, on some of my favorite fragrances & lotions.  All of those things were great.  Yet I still felt as if, I wasn’t fully living up to my potential.  One of my true passions is writing.  I love to write!!  I can recall being a little girl, and practicing my handwriting techniques by constantly writing out the full names to my Barbie doll collections.  Yes….I gave all 75 of them full names!  When my professors would call for a paper on a personal interest subject, or even a predetermined topic, most times I would receive a B+ or higher.  If I received a C, it was because certain notations were missing.  Not because the content was average.  As a matter of fact, one of my professors, assured me that I would be successful, if I continued on with my creative writings.  So….along with my passion to see women rise above their yesterday, I began to fuel my vision through writing. Continue reading

It’s you or the ATM

It’s amazing how many men, think that most women, want their money.  You’d be surprised at the commentaries I read or conversations I hear.  Now it’s true that some women are professional gold diggers. They will dig into a guys pocket, to finance their entire lifestyle, and will do it without any ounce of remorse. This post is not about them!  Of course it’s nice to have a guy in your life, who will buy a present or two for the woman he loves.  Especially when she does so much for him.  However, a real woman is not looking for a man, to empty out his pockets every single week! A real woman wants the whole man!!!  Not his credit cards, extravagant trips, and ATM pin codes.  She can get that on her own, or do without it until later.

In my opinion, when a man is only dating and not committed/engaged/married to a woman, what’s in his pocket belongs to him.  Yes I know this may not be a popular topic or statement, but it’s something to think about.  Many women have placed their lives in danger or have lost their lives, simply by “playing a man” for his money.  They knew (from the beginning) that there wasn’t any real interest in the man.  Yet because he had great financial records, drove a nice car, and rubbed elbows with some of society’s elite, they dated the man.  Once the man finds out; she has played him, he goes ballistic!

Listen…..No one wants to feel used!!  It’s one of the most crappiest feelings in the world!  To have given your all in a situation, then to have someone step on it, doesn’t feel good at all.  Sad to say, I can somewhat understand why some guys become upset.  They were thinking that the relationship was going somewhere, only to find out; that in reality they were a human ATM!  Money has its role in everything.  It’s impossible to live without it.  Nevertheless I remain by my guns, and say that it shouldn’t be, the main reason for dating someone.

Consider these tips:

  • Whatever you were doing and however you were surviving before he came along, should still be a reality while dating him.  Don’t allow him to cosign anything, that you’re not willing to relinquish if the relationship doesn’t work out.
  • IF he so chooses to pay your bill, or just give you money, let that be completely on him. Not because you have your hand out, all of the time.  Of course there’s nothing wrong with him showing his interest, by lavishing you sometimes.  Just let him do it.  Make it perfectly clear where you stand.
  • If you’re not totally interested in him, leave him alone.  Don’t play games with a man’s heart. Because in the end, you may be the one to suffer (in a way you least expected).
  • Let him go, find what you like, and keep peace in your life.


Ms. Collins/YourBeauty285

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Sex and Roll Back Prices.


Allow me to get straight to the point.  SEX – it feels good!!  It’s one of the best gifts, given to mankind.  From centuries pass and even now, it has been enjoyed by many.   This same heart racing activity has brought many to its knees.  While empowering others, with an insurmountable amount of confidence.  This gift, if not used correctly can & will bring a curse.  It will destroy the happiest of homes, and turn a housewife into a neighborhood solicitor.  Many unsuspecting persons, have fallen victim to it.

SEX – the heart pounding, moments of pleasure, leg shaking activity, will have you thinking you’re in love.  A person who’s usually lost for words, will suddenly have a whole lot to say.  It’s a powerful thing.  It contains enough power, to destroy everything & everyone…..in it’s path.  From kingdoms, to tin roof homes, it can crumble it all – within a moment’s pleasure.  SEX – the kryptonite for many.

However, when it comes to dating in today’s society, many will use SEX as some type of sales pitch.  In other words, they will present it, as if it’s the high roll back sale at Walmart.  I can’t even tell you, how many guys I’ve run into, and that’s the FIRST thing they offer me.  You would think I had some invisible sign over me, which reads “Apply here, for all bedroom antics!”  And…….no I don’t fully believe in the “you are, what you attract” thought process.  Many times folks will just try you.  Personally speaking, there’s nothing about me that says hoe behavior, and I’m willing to bet that it’s the same scenario, with a lot of females.

Here’s a NEWSFLASH for the guys: a real woman is not merely interested, in the acrobats of the bedroom.  A real woman wants the opportunity to know the whole man!  Not just what’s in between his legs. As a matter of fact, it’s a turn off when it’s the FIRST thing offered!!  SEX is the easiest thing to get!!  Yet it’s the first thing that’s brought up in a conversation, after you say hi!!  Any woman who has an ounce of class about herself (no matter what her hormones are doing), won’t just settle for that alone.  A REAL WOMAN – WANTS THE WHOLE MAN.  The good, bad, ugly, and fixable….we want the total man.  Offering sex alone, is the cheapest thing to present to a woman.  There’s more to you than that.  There’s more value to you than that.  True enough, SEX can bring some comfort, but it shouldn’t be regulated as the spokesperson for who you are.  So fellas….. please, for the sake of us real ladies, do better!  In the long run, you’ll be glad you did.


Ms. Collins/YourBeauty285


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Sex, Love, and Romance

There so much volume/meaning to this pic.  One could say that the woman is chaining herself to the man, or that the couple is chained together….forever.  As well; if you look at the expression of the woman in the pic, she’s giving her all in that moment, and maybe for future endeavors (with that man).  With that being said, can we say the same thing about Today’s Society?  Has society taught or encourage us, to give our all into a relationship?  Is it a common standard to just love one person?

I would venture out to say “NO!”  No, society hasn’t taught us to give 100% in a relationship.  Nor does society encourage true romantic love.  Selfishness has become the standard of meaningless relationships. Nowadays the majority of persons, what a quick fix – a “hit it and quit it” type of situation. Many are not looking for substance.  They’re NOT looking to date for the purpose of compatibility or marriage.  It has become an event of sexual expose’.  An event of “who can make who fall in love first” or better yet (brace yourselves)….who can reach an orgasm first!!  As a whole society, we have become increasingly selfish! Among many, there’s no real search for love.  Based on some actions, real love doesn’t even exist any more. At least not the real kind of love, that’s portrayed on the movie screen or heard in real music.  However the “I can get you, when I want you” type of attitude (no real/true feelings), have replaced the art of love.  It’s no more of getting to know, who the person is; that you’re interested in.  It has become an all out physical tournament.  People have now (openly) focused on the physical attributes rather than who the person is. Breast, hips, thighs, butts, shoulders, and sweatpants….that’s it.  No more of what makes a person, who they are.   Just jump straight into bed, no second thoughts to it. What has happened to us?  Have we become so vain with the purity of life, that we no longer value, what’s real?  Have we become so damaged by the carelessness of another person, that we’ve built up a wall around our hearts, where love can’t enter in?   Where has the love gone?  What happened to courting?

Running game has become a norm.  The men run it on ladies, and ladies have now mastered it. But why? Well….I think it has to do with keeping ourselves from feeling hurt – again.  Some of us have given our everything to a relationship, only to have it trampled upon by someone who didn’t even give us 50% to work with.  When others walked away, we stayed.  When others laughed, we cried.  While others were pursuing careers, we stayed and gave our heart in constructing his/her future.  Then one day – out of nowhere, we were hit with the “I don’t want this anymore” speech.  What??  What do you mean, you don’t what this? Sometimes it wasn’t even the choice of words spoken.  It was the actual absence of the person, to let you know that the relationship was not relevant anymore.   So with that in mind, the person who has been hurt decides to build this wall around his/her heart, where no one can get in.  Everything has become strictly physical, no emotions involved -at all.  Of course (in their mindset) catching feelings, is for the weak, soft, or sensitive. That would NEVER happen to them.  For they have closed off every avenue of emotions.  Just cold, callous, and manipulative.

DAMAGED.  That’s what’s out here on the dating scene.  DAMAGED people doing damaging things. Breaking hearts, misusing unsuspecting individuals, creating more individuals to join the unspoken crew of – DAMAGED.  Yeah, yeah, yeah….someone may try to argue this point, but it’s true.  DAMAGED people DAMAGE people!  Those individuals who are out here causing heart-break, drama, etc. haven’t come to terms as to why, they do what they do.  For if they would have done so, then they would not be repeating the same patterns.

If you know what it is like to have a broken heart, then you wouldn’t do it to the next person.  If you’re scared someone will do it to you, then take your time in dating someone.  It’s better to take things slow & prayerful, then to go 75 mph and have a head on collision.  Take your time, discover the person you’re interested in (not in a sexual way), and you’ll see things differently.  It’s not about the acrobatics of the bedroom, rather it’s about the acrobatics of the heart.  Learn to love again.  Learn to trust again.  True love is out there.  Search for it, wait for it, and when it comes – be real with it.

Ms. Collins/YourBeauty285

Boy……. Bye!!!!


I don’t know where this status originated, although it was reposted by someone on Instagram (noted in the pic). However, this statement is so true for many of us.  No, we don’t wake up with the intent to be mean, it’s just that the world is seemingly weighing on our shoulders.  We have one million things to do!  Kids to take care of, business moves to make, dinners to plan, bills to move around, and church functions to complete (to name a few).  So when that guy comes our way with the same ole, same ole -with the intent to mislead– we become frustrated and call it out!!


Of course we appreciate the compliments, but the little boy moves with the misleading undertones, is what aggravates us.  To say the least, for the average woman, the very comment of “You look so mean” becomes quite tiresome for us.  The games, lies, etc. is what has worn us out.  By the time a young lady has reached the age of 40, she’s heard it all.  So when some guy attempts to sway her with an age old line, her mindset is like “Really?  So we’re doing this again?”  Where’s the originality?  Where’s the honesty of heart?  Why do guys have to come up with played out lines, to gain the attention of women?  Why can’t they just be upfront, so we can get this over with?  As straight-forward as those questions are, I tend to think that; not many men can answer them.  Why?  Well in my opinion, it’s how generations before them have taught them.  Say this or that, to get what you want.  Not to mention that who they’re getting it from has feelings, hope, and desires.  It’s an attitude of “kill or be killed.”

What a real woman wants, is a guy who will take the time out to be real with her – BEFORE HE EVEN MENTION bedroom activities.  We want the true intent of your speech.  As quite as it may be, a real woman is tough enough to handle the real truth.  Of course we may shed a tear, but we’ll be alright.  Be truthful.  Don’t waste our time.  Stop lying, be upfront!!  Even if what the guy want is sex – be a gentleman about it, but at least be upfront.  Stop acting like you’re interested in our dreams, when the only thing you’re really interested in, is how we work in bed!!  Now there is truth that some women want nothing but sex.  However, you’ll never meet them, if you’re still playing games in the sandbox.  Grow Up!!!  Say what you mean and the right chic will show up!!!  Stop with the age old tradition of being a player.  You’re going to wind up, being an old guy at the Senior Center -without teeth, high blood pressure, and wondering what it could have been like, if you had of stop playing games a long time ago.  One the saddest things to see, is an old man still trying to run game (as if he’s in his 20’s).  Don’t be an old fool….grow up and approach us like grown men!!


Ms. Collins 2017