One of the worst things a woman can do to a man, is hold out on him. Yes I’m talking about sex. Now of course I’m all about empowering women, but let’s take a look at one of the things; we as women do when we become mad. Hopefully you’ll handle things differently.
So you’re mad at him and you have been for several weeks. You decide to close your bakery/legs and not give him anything. He can’t touch, taste or even look at it. It’s closed down until further notice. NEWS FLASH: you’re really not hurting him. If he truly loves you, he may wait it out (by any many necessary), but you’re making it hard for him (no pun intended). Nevertheless whether he loves you or not, soon or later he’s going to get tired of your games and go elsewhere. No I’m not a supporter of cheating, but allow me to help you out.
Of course your feelings and what you’re going through is important. Yet you have to understand that men are wired a little differently than women. No sex doesn’t solve all of your problems, but it can serve as an icebreaker. For instance, you can’t hold out on a man for several weeks and believe that when you’re ready to talk things out, he’s just going to open up and start talking. I mean….you really can’t believe that. Just like you have a need to verbally state what’s troubling you, he has a need of being physical/sexually active with you. Please hear what I’m saying. You can’t be so into “Women’s Right” and having your voice heard, that you just toss the man and his feelings out of the window. That’s a double standard. You’re smarter than that, you know how to negotiate. Step back and see things from a different point of view. No, you’re not letting him have his way, rather you’re giving him space to state his feelings. Remember how I said that sex can be an icebreaker? Well it can be for a committed couple. The drop by night situations, it probably won’t work. It’s just sex for him, plain & simple.
You can’t stop a man from cheating, but you can provide the environment for him to not want to cheat (if he’s thinking right). Once you’ve taken care of him & the home, if he pulls up in someone else’s driveway, at least your hands are clean. You are the Queen of your home, rule it well. Just because you’re giving it to him, does not mean that you’re devaluing yourself. Hopefully you’re getting some enjoyment out of it too. So in a closing nutshell, balance the silent treatments & the cookie. Everything can’t be your way all of the time, and it can’t be his way all the time. Stop the games, and come to some sort of agreement. Plus you know you want him anyway. Be the Queen you are, and make things work.
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