I’m just wondering, how many Major (or even small) Companies, give out benefits to everyone who likes them? What about to a person who applies for a position, but never gets hired? Hmm…..can’t think of any? Neither can I! Which brings me to the following point. If companies don’t give out benefits to just anybody, then why has it become so normal, for people in relationships or seeking to be in one; to do it? Yes I’m talking about romantic relationships, but this could also be applied to business relationships as well. Society has become increasingly engaged in wanting and expecting the FULL BENEFITS PACKAGE, without much investment. Dating is not what it used to be. There was a time where if a man or woman were actually interested in someone, they took the time to get to know the person. Now it’s all about “What can you do for me?”
Maybe it’s because we live in a society where everyone is in a rush. Everything is done quick, fast, and in a hurry. Such as during your 30 minute lunch break, you expect to order your meal and have it ready by the time you put your credit card back in your wallet. No one likes to wait! Give it to me now, or not at all. How many great relationships have we missed out on, because we didn’t want to wait? We rushed everything! We didn’t take the time, to really get to know the person? How far would we be (in relationships) if we would have slowed down. It’s possible so many wouldn’t be damaged goods. It’s possible that marriages would last longer. The dating scene would be better, if the average person, wasn’t out for self-gratification. Benefits, benefits, benefits. Everybody wants them, but not many are willing to put in the work to get them.
Stop giving out benefits, to persons who don’t even meet half of your expectations. They haven’t showed you any signs of maturity, or real interest in you. Yet you’re just handing out full benefit packages, like the grocery stores that hand out samples!! You’re not a valuable entity in their life. You’re not their spouse. So stop performing as if you are!!! Of course it’s okay to cook a meal here and there. However why are you rushing home, to cook a meal 7 days of the week, for a person who has not made any real commitments towards you? You’re washing clothes, signing legal documents (other than a marriage license), giving him or her the best sex ever, and for what?
Know your value, and stop giving out freebies to everyone who walks pass you. Go get your dignity back. Stop letting everyone sample you. You’re better than that!! At first, it may be hard to resist, but you can do it.
No successful company has ever handed out benefits, without first having the person/applicant on their team.